Under the Dancing Feet

If being a BDSM top is your thing, you might have already obtained your first flogger, cane, whip or similar instrument. However, as your new hobby develops and grows, you might quickly find yourself having a sizeable collection of tools, and this begs the question…where are you going to put them? Obviously, there’s no shortage of bags, suitcases and other storage solutions on the market. But finding one that’s really optimal for this sort of thing isn’t that easy. Ultimately, any bag will do the job, but if you just use some random gym bag or kit bag, it might make it difficult to pull out the tools when going into a scene, or make it difficult to re-organize it afterwards. The good news is that there are several solutions on the market that could be ideal for this sort of thing, and the better news is that these don’t have to cost a fortune! My ideal storage solution for my tools is an aluminum case, because they are fairly light, affordable, and protect the content very well. There

If you are just starting out in the world of BDSM, you may have the wrong expectation, leading you to think you can just walk into a dungeon, and find someone to do a scene with. In BDSM, this is referred to as "pickup play", and unfortunately, it's not very common. The thing is, a BDSM scene typically requires some planning, so most of them are planned days or even weeks in advance, and are done between tops and bottoms that already have established some level of relationship already. There are folks who are OK (or even prefer) with pickup play, but those may not be easy to find, and frankly, I don't really recommend it. One challenge with pick-up play is the fact that it can be dangerous. In another post I discussed some of the health-related challenged with BDSM play, and the problem with pick-up play is that it may not leave enough time for the players to properly get acquainted and negotiate the content of the scene thoroughly enough. My advice for newbies is

I like to say "Violence is not the answer...unless I am the one asking the question". Indeed, whatever your thoughts are about BDSM, there's no denying that it is, in fact, violent, and involves causing some level of physical harm to another human being. However, most BDSM bottoms do prefer to survive the experience, and their tops also prefer to have living subjects rather than dead ones. Here are a few thoughts and ideas about keeping it safe. The foundation for any BDSM play is consent, of course, but consent can be a bit more complicated than just saying yes or no. One challenge with consent is the fact that during a BDSM scene, the bottom may be flooded with hormones (endorphins, adrenaline etc), which could affect their judgement. It's not uncommon for a bottom to feel a need for more, or to go further in the scene than originally planned, but in that situation, the bottom may be 'legally' impaired (as in, their ability to make rational decisions may be